a. Unpreparedness through Ignorance and Carelessnes: there is no age you are, that you can't start praying about your marital life. A lot of young Christian will tell me they don't know what to pray about when I asked them to spend more time in the presence of God praying. Your marital life is an area that you can also be praying about even when you are not ready for a relationship. A man that has failed to prepare has prepared to fail. Prepare for your marital life by sowing prayers into it early enough. Have a prayer bank for your future home. You can even pray for your unborn children. I remembered I did that even when I was not intending to be engaged. The result I got from that was an early revelation of the kind of man I will marry. It was quite easy for me when the time came. Most of the time, when we wait to start prayers when we are ready. A lot of people make silly mistakes out of impatience. Don't be careless about this! Now that you have known start praying. Also, the kind of life you are living shows the kind of personalties your life will attract. Be careful the kinds of friends you keep. Live a good Christian life, not an hypocritical Christian life.
b. Spiritual problem: so many people that has great future has been obstructed by the enemy. Just because they have seen the future glory, they want to cause a delay through the marital life. Jesus said: But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way.
Matthew:13:25
When they saw the glory and the star of Jesus, and the great assignment of salvation he has. The enemy want to kill Jesus too, even as a baby, but God revealed to Joseph in a dream to run with the baby. Moses was not left out, he was to deliver Israel, the enemy plan to kill his destiny from a baby, the parents by faith saved him. so many destinies has been killed through delay in marital life and wrong marriages and mistakes caused by delay of marriage partners.
c. Pride: A person too full of him/her self will find it so difficult to accept people easily. And may feel everyone is not just perfect as a partner. Such may have a high mind about a particular standard of life. It could be spiritual or physical. I met a sister that was studying law in the University, the brother that proposed to her from her church was a teacher in a private secondary school. The sister told me she can't pray about such when I was counselling her. Although by the grace of God, they are happily married now and are great tools in the Lord's hand. She was expecting a lawyer, an engineer, or a doctor to propose to her, just because she is going to be a lawyer. Before that time they were very good friends, but after the proposal she will shun this brother each time they met. She find it so hard to pray about it despite they were very good friends before just because of the kind of job he got. You only know the beginning of someone, you can never tell their end. someone that has a good job now may loose it after marriage. As I write now, the sister did not practice her law profession for just a day, but the family now owns one of the biggest private school in the heart of Ibadan city. Don't let pride hold you down. If God is leading you, you must be sure you can't be disappointed.
d. Dirtiness and roughness: You want a partner badly, you want someone to notice you. But your roughness and dirtiness is so loud. You don't know how to look neat, fine and presentable. Forget it! Everyone want something lovely and lovable. Don't stay unkept thinking no one is taking note. Tell someone to describe you, and she can say, that guy that he's always wearing that his brown wicked jeans, only God knows when he washes that. With that his bushy hair and rough outlook, he came proposing, God forbid bad thing o.
When comments of such can be passed. about you, be careful! Change your outlooks, be neat! Shave when you need too, barb when you need too, be concerned with your clothings, wash and iron when due. Brush and comb properly. True! Some sisters do smell out of dirty hair. Just because you wear cap everytime does not mean you have to neglect good care of your hair. Wash and weave your hair when due. Two set of people are quick to be noticed. Rough and dirty peoole, the always neat and good looking people. Be in the second group please!
e. Laziness: Laziness will make a life not achieve anything. You try studying, you have nothing to show. You tried learning a trade, yet you can't show anything. Business too is a big problem. But you know how to brag of becoming big in future. No one want to marry a lazy woman, talk less of a lazy man. Find something fruitful doing fast. You need money to take care of your family. Some will say oh! "Girls of today love too much money, if you're not giving them money that won't agree to marry you" oh boy! True money is not everything! But you have to be responsible if you want to marry! Giving is part of showing that you love!
f. fornication and uncleaniness: so many females are affected by these. So many girls and ladies that has gone into these are been labelled as bad or rotten, especially in their locality. And when they don't have an opportunity of leaving that particular area where they have lived recklessly, they find it hard to settle down in time. The only people they get are the ones that want to pollute them the more. No one want to marry them. Don't allow anyone pollute you, or pollute you further, if you have made one or two mistakes please stop and repent. God can give you a good life. If you are still a virgin man or lady keep your virginity till marriage.
And for others, they have contacted terrible disease or fallen into a terrible health situation through this way of life and this may debarr their settling down naturally. Purity pays! Stay pure!
Oh Lord God, I pray for everyone still seeking your face for a marriage partner for great wisdom needed for this task, and for the opportunity to discover your mind correctly in Jesus name! Amen.
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